Personal boundaries, an update. Red relationship traffic light.

Ok..  Without much hesitation let's go to the list of personal boundaries, ie. those things that should not be done or I shouldn't be provoked to do:

• Ghosting -10%. I completely and utterly do not like blocks and disappearings without any comments or taking the situation and twisting it towards some angle, which somehow guarantees the possibility or even need of blocking, and disappearing. Or - alternatively, if both of us in the relationship have been acting impulsively and emotionally, reactively and without big predictions for n years... Then it is allowed for both of us and both of us must remain blameless, not ashamed of it, because otherwise the relationship will not last. But it's best not to do it at all, or if it happens, it is supposed to be temporary... Because everything happens to everyone, but I need at least something... something to know that the person hasn't left, any kind of consensual message, or some note through others or any other sign, no matter how meaningless and incomprehensible :D
• Distancing -10%. I need a person to communicate with me, not only in private and not only in public, but not to be afraid to flirt together in public or on the Internet or live, and also to be able to spend time together freely, if that is the case. I don't see any need to be dragged to someone's personal space only, for their own needs, like some kind of animal, or that the other person I am attracted to should be kept in the role of such a creature, and I don't see any need to stay in the place of some drooling fan or ideal, almost god alike on a pedestal. I kind of dislike extremes... Unless shortly for thrills. 
• Immaturity -10%. Well, it is hard to have a person with a disability, including financial...emotional as well. Well, you want maturity, I understand that it is very difficult for almost everyone, we are all lame in some way, and sometimes even blind. It's just that safety in the relationship is important... And you really rely on the fact that both separately and together won't fail and will be just fine. That everything will be fine...and it is so at this moment too. And maybe it's even more desirable that the traumas of the two of us and results of these traumas simply match, and not cross, because an ideally independent person is not healthy, in reality... it smells like counter-dependency - where a person is sooooo independent that he/she needs another person to depend on them. You don't want that. 
• Manipulation -15%. Well, the truth is that women have learned this because it's the best tool for defense and getting what they need without much fighting (with men)... But in a relationship, it's unreliable, intolerable, and provokes behavior that no one involved wants to remember later, not at all... And we, most probably, all had similar women as guardians growing up, so I suggest that anyone is okay to pay attention to this, not necessarily only women. Also, gaslighting is an even more sophisticated and cruel version to manipulate. It works, but for a short time and with painful consequences... It's better not to do it... Trust, and faith in each other help here.
• Dissociation -15%. Separateness, even when physically being together. What you don't want is to sit in a room and feel like you're alone in it, with no connection, no love, no togetherness. That's not acceptable. You're not a thing, I'm not a thing, we connect, we need connection and it really doesn't have to be super physical, although hugs or slaps on the shoulder are always good C: It's so much simpler and easier... with some awareness a connection seems much more pleasant than just a social obligation that kinda seems to be imposed on you C: Well... By the way, complete detachment and even a kind of loss of self is a complete horror, when your comrade seems to be attacked by some non-existent enemies who most likely just came down from the chimney... Well, or you suddenly become that enemy for him, and that "enemy" needs to be neutralized by any means or at least distanced from it. And well.. this is not a hospital, and neither you nor we are patients... Also if I eternally need to play a patient so that you feel valuable, oh the saint doctor, an eternal benefactor... well. Maybe then you need to exercise some or something because that much stressful bond is definitely not going to do any good for either of you. In other words, this circus is not necessarily acceptable.
• Infidelities -20%. Of course, both physical and emotional infidelity are indelibly painful and hardly forgiven unless both parties are willing to take responsibility for their contribution to such events... Whoever is unfaithful needs to learn self-discipline for firmness of good behavior with a close one. And the one with whom someone was unfaithful should take responsibility for establishing a firmness of good behavior with him/herself. That is a fact with women for me...I'm not clear here yet about emotional infidelity though. Anyway, emotional betrayal is no easier than physical betrayal, I think so at this point. Just as everyone wants to know whose offspring the child really is, they also want to know if a person won't disappear one day without saying a word to raise that child. So, let's talk, let's say what's wrong before it explodes or we will start looking for shelter in another heart, let's listen, and explain until we understand each other... accept one another's reality, and then we'll slowly find a way out. Sometimes a beautiful breakup or a change of relationship status (for example, from friendship to acquaintances) is also a way out, much better than silent disappearance or an avalanche of conflicts... a wall of silence, even if you stay together, or the getting rid of relational "shit" outside the relationship or even on own children.
• Inequality -20%. I'd like to have fun with a friend, not be too serious or have a painful relationship that I'd rather avoid than be around... where there's some kind of minefield.. impenetrable rooms, labyrinths... inaccessibility, playing a star, not being able to get close because after all, the gentleman connects only with his equals, and you are not equal... I want honesty, not being led like a donkey somewhere behind a carrot... I like equality in a relationship, I consider the formation of a different dynamic a betrayal. And I don't want to do everything alone also... I want a safe person who sees this in me too... so that we both grow safety for each other and for oneself at the same time... if I see that I work too much or the other does way more than I can, it oppresses me... I want there to be a sharing of work, roles, load, and responsibility... also without cheating and forever putting themselves in the position of the winner... and without that desire to put me on the throne of some king, I have nothing against sitting on it for a while, if I deserved it, but not for the reason to be milked all the time... I am inclined to give anyway, so just wait and you will get some :)... and it's even worse when they're milking, but they pretend that hint that I also have to pretend that it's not happening... in other words, all the milkmen - OUT. And cows too... It's not a barn, we can both help and accept help, you just have to try to find a suitable exchange partner for it... otherwise, no one survives. And that's it. Failure to accept the exchange mutually benefits, to the extent that it exists in the capacity of each person... is to me a betrayal of the principles of friendship. This is not friendship then, but some kind of perversion.

Ok... I think that's it for now. Long entry, but at least clear and detailed. I hope it will help someone to understand what you would like for yourself and what you really can't allow in the circle of your loved and closest ones... Building a kind of beacon ⛯ for those who aren't indifferent about people who are close to them and to whom they would like to be close to themselves.

Important notes:
- The mentioned genders/sexes vary in this entry mostly because of our brain/bodies being eternally just as complicated as the universe itself and you usually can't address the person as one solid piece of the one and only one thing. You can read more on this here or here, etc. ☯️☯️☯️
- You can look up my previous attempt to set personal boundaries in this entry - here.
- If you tried to connect with me and accidentally calculated your answers to what I wrote here and got more than 50% (or didn't understand most of my entry), be a good pal and just direct your attempts for friendship towards someone more suitable.

Best day wishes to anyone !!! ​💐