Ok... so on ecology in our lives. What do you do about it? Do you recycle your home waste? Or do you try not to use a lot of stuff, and re-use anything you can? What are your choices to not drawn yourself into the sea of things: furniture, clothing, shoes, bags, plants, dishes, food, anything? Do you like it to be as clean and empty as it is in minimalism style or even as for ascetics: only you, backpack, toothbrush, and a bottle of water? Or are you more of the creative, chaotic person, who needs to have a bunch of useless things around him/her, wake up and sleep not by regime or discipline but rather by impulse or mood - in waves and still be fine and ok? What is your prerogative: a chaotic creative style or a clean orderly style. Both of them have their own charm and limits... Or maybe you are someone in between and then get 'eclectic' or 'shallow' labels because of it? Okay... So, about me, myself and I :D again. I like the XIX century ending XXc beginning, why? Because this was sort of a crossroad from something, that was old and slow and constant into something that was suddenly blooming, growing at never seen speed before... everything just exploded: industry, medicine, population, art, all. So, I guess, that defines me as someone, who likes to hold on to, what is oldish and go on with something, what's new. That time has writers such as J.Verne, I can't tell, how much I liked to read him in middle school, telephones were invented, and many other machines. It's something in between posh and rich in ornamental design and clear, and clean, certain strictness of geometry, shapes, and humbleness. I love it. Maybe generation X makes me choose things in "between", neither old style nor digital. I don't know, it just works for me. I enjoy recycling and emptiness just as I love to bring nature home: leaves, plants, tree branches, shells - stuff, "I might need" for this and that and all :D and it's very appreciated and valued. But yeah, windows must be big and lots of light and lightness too.
Hygiene and cosmetics - similar topic, looking, smelling, touching, hearing - body sensations and body-mind, if you can name so. Why it is important, I can't tell but it's funny, how a clean and pleasant environment and your own body makes all things just better, lighter, easier... like after sitting in some cellar and a small, dark place, you go into an empty, open area, where only fresh air, wind, and open space is present. Not no mention, if you can observe all of it from some spot in good height. It cleans your soul, you finally can breathe and feel alive, and you can say, who you are and not sit still and analyze your past, on and on. It's this need for space and freshness, empty head, open heart... only body: bones, muscles, and blood - only those are your life, You, everything, every piece working in perfect harmony. Jesus, how I love this :D so yeah, mainly, hygiene and cosmetics are important... oh right, and some dirt and not being ONLY careful works as well... you know, potato needs fertilizers :) our body needs to fight something to stay awake and ready, also our body parts die every second, every second so many die in general and then.. so many are born, really, I wonder, if bonobos would have developed those brains that we possess now, would they populate the whole planet just like we did? And yet again, if we fly into open space already, how long until immortality's invention? And where all of us will fit... ? And then again, to have a child that is raised peacefully and with awareness can just make it work, not because "everybody does it", everybody does just the same nature programmed them to fulfil instincts and then die, but we can do more, I do believe, as we are nature and it always wins, we do go the right way, way of the nature.
Ok, so the next topic, that I truly simply pull out of nowhere, seemingly is about... :D socializing and pets, shall we?
Aha, on pets :D well.... everyone that we sort a "save", funny enough, usually saves us more. There is a great idea in there telling that only losing self with another one gets you to find yourself, paradoxically (is it from Depeche Mode song?).
Also, speaking about pets, a lot of people can learn about parenting simply by having some pets and watching themselves, how do you do with them, Do you like it? Can you be ok with them and care enough, do they have everything? Do you spend some time with them, do you understand do's and don'ts? Can you say they are ok with you and are appreciating you, even if in quite ambiguous ways :)? Are you ok with your daily life and traveling and not getting too busy because of them, you find free time and connect with people as well? So on. If you are ok with your pets and still have a quite fine life, you might be ok with kids too. Again... not to mention that it's a good exercise to learn empathy for kids too - to care about a pet, to understand the needs and emotional state of another one, of course, at the proper age for it.
Some people, who were abused and abandoned by their family of origin in quite severe ways prefer to bond with animals more than people. Might be also just an outcome of copying the behavior of their guardians in early childhood.
Let them stay happy, those paws and all :)
So... last entry was on mental stretching and having a somewhat wider worldview and bigger picture intact. This one will be on the physical part: exercising, moving and doing.
Anything: walking, running, swimming, yoga, jogging, climbing, boxing, lifting... What do you do, what is your favorite? Do you do it separately or just combine it with your daily activities, like - walking your dog longer, maybe your work requires running or walking, constant moving? Is it your profession: sports or do you just go swimming in the local water place doesn't matter if it's cold or warm outside? What best results have you hit yet? What is it you want to achieve? I just love to move, if I don't move, it seems like I'm dying, the brain doesn't get enough oxygen, no endorphins, and the mood gets way too low. Do you overwork, or over-exercise often? How many lazy days do you have in a week? All this is so exciting :D
I love swimming BTW, what are your fav sports? Someone uses smart bracelets?
Maybe you play competitive sports: football, baseball, rugby. Martial arts? In martial arts, I think it's an important tool for self-competence in a manner not to fight but knowing that you actually can do it: fight, means your tension in a bit, say, awkward situations might be lower or not exist. BTW, just a thought, but some guys are really good at verbalizing themselves out of trouble, that's good protection as well. Team sports also bring some communication into the place, which is always a healthy daily exercise as well + in the warmer season it might bring you out into the sun - important too.
And shortly on diet: I am not exactly sure about younger people, since I ate drunk and used all sorts of sh***t, so is it interesting to them, I am not sure. Still.. the younger you start to build up the biological system we call the body, the longer and happier it will last. Again, in dieting I never met anyone, who has it sorted completely, diets that people I met used: vegan, vegetarian, keto, Mediterranean, fasting, intermediate fasting, raw food, fruitarian, raw vegan, water diet-detox days in intervals, tea diet-detox in intervals, gluten-free diet and I guess, that is it. Usually, people, who are more aware and conscious about, what they eat and how much, are counting calories a bit, eating less fatty and sugary food, and trying to exercise. There are many indicators of, what is ok and not so much on the labels of the products as well: red, yellow, and green coloring of fat, sugar, and salt in the product can tell you, what to pick best, especially knowing this limit for kcal/day for an adult - 2500. For some hours eating doesn't matter, for others eating in the evening is a slow torture sentence in fast-evolving obesity. Some mixed stuff: eating some particular diet, not exceeding a particular number of kcal/day, doing some fasting too. I think like in exercising there is anything adjusted to a person. Never mind that, if too strict, you can end up losing your healthy style constantly because natural ways of our psyche need freedom and constant restriction that can't vary, and having days off seems like a prison, I wouldn't suggest that.
And a few words on addictive substances like nicotine, alcohol, and caffeine. Not long ago even doctors claimed that nicotine is healthy in small amounts (well not so long ago Sun was turning around Earth, so no surprises), so now it's still believed alcohol and especially caffeine is healthy in considerate portions too... Again, I'm not telling you to be perfect but if you use something, never judge anyone self-medicating on heroin, since the point is the same everywhere: if you can't calm down and stay uplifted without your "small sins", the other person can't too... although judging, in general, is a hard thing to handle. Stay healthy, stay clean, and let your energy brighten your and your friend's day. Whoop whoop!!! fella or a gal, whoop whoop :P
Reading, ok, let's do reading and exercises since I can't understand any mental stretching without some boxing bag or good swimming... It doesn't go this way, you need to move to rest up your brain and you need to exercise your brain to let your body levitate in its own galaxy or something...
Reading, again, I prefer paper books, it's so much easier to separate them + I simply like to detach from pc, phone, and anything, to have a cuppa with some green (decaf) tea or coffee (decaf, you guest right) and.... just disconnect from fast, racing, competing, eating itself up world... with wars, epidemics, protests, masks, prices, noises, mess... all of it. That is best for me, but anyway, other people prefer other stuff: audiobooks are the thing, you can also get into group book readings, and so on. You can write books :) and also there is an internet... This wonder of the world needs another to write about it.
So... Internet and streaming created this way of people without writing and reading simply streaming their knowledge and also following to get some kind of knowledge. I know, the classical, academic approach dismantles and belittles this way of sharing: giving-receiving knowledge, since it's messy, random, filled with actual bull***t and not many can disagree with those arguments... as they can't disagree that most new, fresh and intact information really is concentrated in the internet, not in books or newspapers. It's just so much faster than other ways of info streaming... that technically it's just impossible to get faster than this. So to belittle the importance of the internet is a completely wrong choice. So... I would like to mention podcasts and conferences, films, and all you can find in this reality of the internet which is actually not very real, it's virtual, yet, it creates actual reality so so strongly... already.
And then home-schooling. what it is and why you need to know it :D home-schooling was one of the best options to escape from the world's madness when Covid just hit and it always is the most preferable option for escaping the mad education system that we have. Yes, there are better schools, alternative places, where teachers and their students are choosing objects to learn by voting and never need to ask permission to visit toilets and never need to sit for hours in one place while being children filled with high levels of energy... Where teachers and students are on one level, not in the higher-lower hierarchy. And then those places are few and very fresh and usually expensive or not stable enough to trust for a longer time. So.... home-schooling is where parents (or other guardians - grandparents, step-parents, and so on) can do their best to avoid pushing their children through the mince grater to make them into "another brick in the wall". It needs some preparation, and some bravery but most of all it needs people, who are prepared for parenting and have some excess time to spend in a quality way with their children, in playing, resting, learning, and in other activities. That is most required - having recourses: a giant wish for your child to get the best out of learning and saved spare time to actually do learning together. And that's it basically.
If you don't believe me, try to re-educate your own self without attending the academy world. There are plenty of famous, successful people, who never went there following their diplomas but rather following their life mission, not the carer but a call (not graduated or are drop-outs: Coco Chanel, George Orwell, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, Claude Monet and more). What else?? dunno, maybe Billie Eilish's example of being home-schooled in their childhood and so on. It's not about staying uneducated, it's about staying with your passion rather than with your paper.
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