Ok, so next topic, that I truly simply pull out of nowhere, seemingly is aboooout... :D socialising and pets, shell we?
I talked about being alone and self-sustained because it's seriously interesting topic and needed skill entering adult's life (doesn't matter, you enter it at your 16 or your 56, it's never too late, and we all remain childish no matter what, unless we become healed 100% like Buddha or smthing), so... Yes, self-sustainability is a thing (at least for me) and then there is that part in us, who needs socialising and needs it highly. Not to mention, in a hierarchy of needs there is this section of social-belonging needs. We all are animals, never gone far from it, main brain capacity is still wired to surviving and motoric, really not to prefrontal part responsible for our conscious thoughts and being... That's little part, main part is about body and unconscious, and as an animals we are very social creatures, not to mention that this need is about surviving too: group is more effective in hunting and all than one individual. It's often said that introverts are quite new, just as eating meat or cook food is relatively new part of life of humanity, I am not sure about it (introvertive features) myself but I am sure, we developed not only cooking but morality to sort our lives and better surviving of the species. Morality isn't something pulled out of nowhere too, primary it helped to control and develop most preferred behaviour withing group, most effective behaviour. Anyone, who murders, rapes, assaults and steals isn't wrong in order to survive and have more offspring, it's just he (she?) usually ends up alone; or say, group where such a human would become a leader (because everyone would avoid and fear him), would be brutal and abusive, where creativity, peace, gathering and teaching-passing knowledge wouldn't be very much preferred or even existing... I mean, there isn't anything new, if you rob, murder, assault others in such group, unless you do even harder and!, even in this situation, you would be more effective in group than alone. Shortly put groups with brutal and destructive behaviour is hard to create and even harder to maintain, they aren't long living and stable. So, in this way common today's morals are those, where we mostly avoid murder, rape, assault, theft and embrace peacefulness, cooperation, creativity, flexibility; these principles slowly created more successful, prosperous and greater groups and civilisations afterwards. Well, something like that, I'm not historian and this small description is about socialising and importance of it; we created unimaginable things because needed one another to get better and learn and so on.
So... shortly: don't forget your family or loved ones, friends, co-workers, everyday strangers - cashiers, drivers, electrics, postmen, waitresses, just people in a bus stop. One random smile can change your day, one accidentally met stranger - your life. Take conflicts for a challenges to learn solve problems, enemies for guidance to most important things, when we lose our ways; there is no body, who falls out, everything is simply connected in ways, it's impossible to fall out. So :) lets enjoy our days and, I hope, 2022 Easter amused and cheered everyone up :)
Aha, on pets :D well.... everyone that we sort a "save", funny enough, usually saves us more. There is a great idea in there telling that only losing self with another one gets you to find yourself, paradoxically (is it from Depeche Mode song?).
Also, speaking about pets, lot of people can learn for parenting simply by having some pets and watching self, how you do with them, you like it? Can you be ok with them and care enough, do they have everything? Do you spend some time with them, do you understand do's and don'ts? Can you say they are ok with you and are appreciating you, even if in quite ambiguous ways :)? Are you ok with your daily life and travelling and not getting too busy because of them, you find free time and connecting with people as well? So on. If you are ok with your pets and still having quite fine life, you might be ok with kids too. Again... not to mention that it's good exercise to learn empathy to kids too - to care about a pet, to understand needs and emotional state of another one, of course, at proper age for it.
Some people, who were abused and abandoned by their family of origin in quite sever ways prefer to bond with animals more than people. Might be also just an outcome of copying behaviour of their guardians in early childhood.
Let them stay happy, those paws and all :)
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