Dorothy or Secure Attachment Style
Ok, going back to attachment styles among adults... First in a row:
Secure attachment style (acronym - SA):
I am not sure, what to tell much about this attachment style:
Not sure, what else to ad here:
In the land of Oz :) for me Secure Attachment Icon is Dorothy: this person has a heart, has brains, can be vulnerable (has courage) and is secure (person feels at home)... so... I just found this meme and then, let us pray🙏(and don't even think on push on the Dorothy pic, you sacrilegious person! :D) for to become and stay within this frame of saint and cozy security :D but to be honest and a bit more serious... This - attachment style theory, - really might be one of the keys to your ok bonding with the partner and other people, you love. Even with you! Yourself... within, since it's much more effective and fair to work on it and build it from within than wait until someone will "make you whole"... try it :} it's worth it. (Other securely attached people might help, especially attachments therapists)
I would like to mention Esther Perel and her work about exact desire in couples. Secure people don't have a pink dream about not hurting/not being hurt... And sticking together forever, never let go holding hands or being in a very distant, very busy bond, where you spend one romantic evening each week and that's all...
I mean, at least for me hurt and abandonment, also not being free and uniquely I am big topics, and balancing and surfing in these opposites is a crucial thing to do. I really appreciate Esther's work.
There are a lot of resources on attachment styles in English. You can find some in my blog too, like here for example.
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