Second in a row in four of attachment styles:
Dismissive Avoidant attachment style (acronym - DA):
So, who's that grumpy, calm loner, who wonders about the heart? :)
It's the Tin-man, aye.
You know those cool kids around, who are lonely but do it because their own chose, they just withdraw? These usually are dismissive avoidants :D Now they don't seem so cool, since they do it only because they have some unresolved issues from before? But they still are cool, at least in the way.
What to say more about dismissive avoidants? hmm
Ok, so if goin further:
In the land of Oz dismissive avoidant character for me is the Tinman :) calm, trustworthy metal giant, that can't deal on his own with that liquid oil and can't move on by himself, if happens to be stuck. Yep, overthinking and spinning in one place in your thoughts s*cks, I can relate. You can also see lots of similar characters as a robots :) they understand they don't have emotions and can reach same difficulty and richness in crazy emotional world that people have... and all the patterns and mimicking human's behaviour can't bring them this chaotic although super powerful feature... so they are just left to evolve their calculations with hope that one day they will reach difficulty and complexity of the heart.
There are online courses, therapists, also friend, who are ok with their emotions might be good lead to explore your America, DAs, best luck! (And quit smoking.... for god's sake🚭)
There are quite good quotes of Immanuel Kant, here couple of them:
"Rules for Happiness: something to do, someone to love, something to hope for."
"Do the right thing because it is right."
Or these below ⬇️ (maybe:D)
Remember the Tinman 🤖
oh, and don't try to remember to push on the tinman
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