The Lion or Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style

Fourth and the last one in the row:
Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style (acronym - FA)
The fearful king of a jungle - lion... ok, so.

• These people aren't anything in between from black and white, angel and devil, they are like being two opposites in one an constantly fighting to find peace in between... at least for a moment
• These people can be happy and grateful for mini second of peace and happiness with someone. That's, what's enough for them to start to adore you. and.... wish you were never born too, since that mini second, they could die for it to repeat, also they would die if it turned into a day or week or years.. since that is another planet for them.
• As kids FAs were abused and abandoned... they couldn't find peace with their caregivers and they couldn't find it alone too... 
• FAs are stressed people constantly being in a state of survival or say, most of the time being in this state. 
• FAs are achievers, since every achievement gives some relief for a while.. So seriously materialistically successful people might be FAs.
• FAs like endings... end means relief, temporary state of resting up, not thinking, not doing.. just relaxing.
• Because of that state of surviving, FAs have to compensate it with some super high qualities and impressive skills, they are basically the kings of their area and can do things people aren't capable even to imagine, it's beyond real as we understand it.

ok... uhm

• FAs might shut down just because they got exhausted... or felt, understood a threat of abuse or an abandonment in a partner or a friend, it might be not even real.. or you don't even understand yet that you might want to leave the relationship with a FA?? Or you want just to rest up, FAs might see it as you leaving for sure and they leave first... they can't take to be in surviving state so harshly, they are always in it anyway, so leaving first is somewhat less of the hurt. They might hit, hurt a friend first too for the very same reasons.
• FAs might have good capacity of understanding and listening but their state demands resources from them that are simply too huge to ignore.. and they take enormous amount of energy, so they will seem as slightly troubled, maybe even not very smart people, or heartless or simply autistic, closed, private. 
• Also.. if FAs are going out and about they are on the another gear: they are loudest, most attractive party person, active, shinning, giving a party that would seem out of this world too... suddenly becoming centre of everything in a way, no one can even get, since it's too complicated and heavy to bear, no one will even try it too. Exceptional, extra ordinary.

In the land of Oz FA for me is the lion. Quite interesting thing, FAs while being soooo impressive and exciting.. they actually don't have much of the courage... especially, when it's about being vulnerable. They can't trust you, themselves and no one but they seem to be someone, who you never ever would want to mess with, like ever! They fear to open up or to be authentic in sensitive in outstanding, in fighting and other ways. As a lion, who is king of the jungle... and yet in the land of Oz he doesn't have a courage. Such a paradox and contrast, that's a FA world - paradoxical, they want the good bond so desperately and are so seriously incapable to create that for them... :/
There are about 5% of FA in Western population.

If anyone ever saw movies like Life Is Beautiful you will know, what it is like to be a FA. Father in that movie is able to create an image that even in a death camp life isn't that bad, he does it to comfort his sun. That is exactly, what FAs are able to do in every situation, it might be paradoxical that everyone could just drop their pants and run, but FA are mostly amazing in situations that are burning with danger and risk... their life is like that simply every and each day, they are trained to face the insanity and sickness with open mind and heart. Insanity of mistrust and disbelieve, and brutal cruel corrupt sickness of the people, who will sell their own soul, if that is profitable at the time given while playing on emotions of stressed people. FAs are seeing every possible bull**it through almost instantly and will point it out without asking permission for it. That's the most bad ass of all the 4 styles, although... the tragedy here is that exact tiredness they have with facing survival - the HORROR state in their mind every second and needing ages to rest up, to withdraw... so these people are those, who like endings.. since ending is a promise to rest up a bit from craziness they needed to face from the very early age and still... have to run it everyday. Before judging a FA, let's have some empathy, this attachment style needs it the most. 
people can change their attachment style ✌️

I knew you were trouble 🖤