Fourth and the last one in the row:
Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style (acronym - FA)
The fearful king of a jungle - lion... ok, so.
In the land of Oz FA for me is the lion. Quite interesting thing, FAs while being soooo impressive and exciting.. they actually don't have much of the courage... especially, when it's about being vulnerable. They can't trust you, themselves and no one but they seem to be someone, who you never ever would want to mess with, like ever! They fear to open up or to be authentic in sensitive in outstanding, in fighting and other ways. As a lion, who is king of the jungle... and yet in the land of Oz he doesn't have a courage. Such a paradox and contrast, that's a FA world - paradoxical, they want the good bond so desperately and are so seriously incapable to create that for them... :/
There are about 5% of FA in Western population.
If anyone ever saw movies like Life Is Beautiful you will know, what it is like to be a FA. Father in that movie is able to create an image that even in a death camp life isn't that bad, he does it to comfort his sun. That is exactly, what FAs are able to do in every situation, it might be paradoxical that everyone could just drop their pants and run, but FA are mostly amazing in situations that are burning with danger and risk... their life is like that simply every and each day, they are trained to face the insanity and sickness with open mind and heart. Insanity of mistrust and disbelieve, and brutal cruel corrupt sickness of the people, who will sell their own soul, if that is profitable at the time given while playing on emotions of stressed people. FAs are seeing every possible bull**it through almost instantly and will point it out without asking permission for it. That's the most bad ass of all the 4 styles, although... the tragedy here is that exact tiredness they have with facing survival - the HORROR state in their mind every second and needing ages to rest up, to withdraw... so these people are those, who like endings.. since ending is a promise to rest up a bit from craziness they needed to face from the very early age and still... have to run it everyday. Before judging a FA, let's have some empathy, this attachment style needs it the most.
people can change their attachment style ✌️
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