Fourth and the last one in the row:
Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style (acronym - FA)
The fearful king of a jungle - lion... ok, so.
In the land of Oz FA for me is the lion. The quite interesting thing is, FAs while being soooo impressive and exciting.. actually don't have much courage... especially, when it's about being vulnerable. They can't trust you, themselves, and no one but they seem to be someone, who you never ever would want to mess with, like! They fear to open up or to be authentic and sensitive in outstanding, fighting, and other ways. As a lion, who is the king of the jungle... and yet in the land of Oz he doesn't have courage. Such a paradox and contrast, that's a FA world - paradoxical, they want the good bond so desperately and are so seriously incapable to create that for them... :/
There are about 5% of FA in the Western population.
If anyone ever saw movies like Life Is Beautiful you will know, what it is like to be a FA. Father in that movie can create an image that even in a death camp life isn't that bad, he does it to comfort his son. That is exactly, what FAs can do in every situation, it might be paradoxical that everyone could just drop their pants and run, but FA is mostly amazing in situations that are burning with danger and risk... their life is like that simply every and each day, they are trained to face the insanity and sickness with open mind and heart. The insanity of mistrust and disbelief, and brutal cruel corrupt sickness of the people, who will sell their own soul, if that is profitable at the time given while playing on emotions of stressed people. FAs are seeing every possible bull**it through almost instantly and will point it out without asking permission for it. That's the most badass of all the 4 styles, although... the tragedy here is that exact tiredness they have with facing survival - the HORROR state in their mind every second and needing ages to rest up, to withdraw... so these people are those, who like endings.. since the ending is a promise to rest up a bit from craziness they needed to face from the very early age and still... have to run it every day. Before judging a FA, let's have some empathy, this attachment style needs it the most.
people can change their attachment style ✌️
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