So... One more message from me about diagnoses.
I'll try to keep it short while the avalanche of hostile people because we don't agree hasn't turned into a quantity that would allow social media algorithms to monitor my activity as if it were, well, terrorism at the very least :D Just kidding, I have a deep belief that it can be avoided this cancel culture or, let's say, victim culture and if it's inevitable for someone, it might be a certain sign that you have broken away from the flow of time and no longer feel the so-called Zeitgeist (EN: Spirit of time, that was very popular movement around 2007-2011 based on film series with the same name, and it helped me to become an atheist then)... Well... and this cancel culture phenomenon is nothing new at all, it's just a modernized and digitized Lynching. And just for the sake of a good little rant I just point out that here we can experience another example of historically blind belief that this kind of phenomenon wasn't with us before, just like the belief that LGBT people "didn't exist" before XXc... or that people, and even more so ALL men, are completely perverted only in these terrible times while at the same time, the internet is full of drawings and sculptures of ancient civilizations with ANY possible deviation from the missionary pose, etc., not to mention the generally inexplicable drawings or the so-called Womb Cave (Ultroba Cave) created by humans (not nature) in the shape of a vagina. So.. but what I wanted to write about is not that big of a topic, but it is important, I think, and now let's do that.
So... Shortly - I am not a supporter of the opinion that if you have a problem or uniqueness: overweight, a different orientation, an internal barrier to employment, an inability to find a partner, etc., well, that having something that is actually not so good or so common, that such a thing only needs acceptance and approval, that it is not so much a problem and that the most important thing is to accept it and live with it. In my opinion, this is the first and therefore perhaps the most important step in the construction of any life, but it is certainly not the final step, well, not in my life. And it's not only about physical, financial, sexual, and professional health but also about the emotional, and relationship side of our everyday. Perhaps I needed to enlighten and update myself that this direction - acceptance is currently even more acute in the emotional health sector and people are encouraged not to hide and open up about their problems and in this way to integrate into the surrounding society. And really, this step is super important, to accept the way it is here and now for you, because, first of all, without this step, it is impossible to go or even come to the idea of some kind of change, but... But this acceptance and thinking that that's all people need... well, that's not really the best solution in my eyes. Not to mention physical health… It's not enough to just accept that your leg just broke, for example.
But let's move on to emotional health. I don't know if it's known to many, but the most life-threatening disorders aren't schizophrenia, not even depression or anything, it is rather disorders related to food, and weight regulation because they are likely to end up rapidly leading to serious problems, and even fatal ones (good read on that here). I don't know if it's worth explaining something very strongly here, but accepting yourself alone won't really help you to overcome difficulties and change the current situation to a less dangerous one. And it's really not just about the opinions of others, although almost 100% of the time it's this increased attention to the opinions of others that leads to such behavior towards oneself. Just to make a long story short, my goal with this article is to make the point that simply accepting your uniqueness is not necessarily the end of the road. Just as you can find ways to lose weight and get in good physical shape, or, say devote your life to reaching marriage equality if you're gay, so can you work on your emotional problems, which (after all) are mostly nurture, not nature-based IMHO, in other words, not innate, but acquired. The good news here is that acquired problems are usually possible to restore and those defensive mechanisms of behavior or attitude towards oneself and others can be changed, not always but most often. Unlike in physical health care, in the psychological health area all diagnostics are based, let's say, not necessarily on empirical observations and proofs at all, not to mention that diagnostics based on symptoms can hardly be considered very reliable and objective or even scientific. Much more can be mentioned here (you can check this article too), but the main point is that just accepting the ailment that has emerged is super important, but I would not advise you to dwell on it until it becomes clear to the person him/herself, with or without help, that he/she either cannot or does not want to change the situation... Because simply adapting to cultural norms and/or denying the problem is definitely not optimal.
And if you really know and you've checked enough times and you're on the path to either healing or control your condition, then you're doing the best you can for yourself and your environment and you're a cool person. Good luck to you.
Mainly I simply invite you to question things and check them... Just like I would encourage not to put yourself in the role of a ethernal laboratory rat, so that you never be able to come to terms with your less than ideal health... which is the reality of each of us, unfortunately :)) And that's it. Best wishes. Well, if you ever meet a perfectly healthy person, it will probably only happen in a dream.
P.s.: if you still trust the diagnostic system of psychiatry and you have gone through a long and really effective healing path and you still want to check how it is with your previous diagnoses, you can always make an appointment with psychiatrists for it.
P.p.s.: if there is nothing about healing or controlling but rather about changing your environment and join the movement for bettering it.. well :) best luck in that, I hope, you'll find your ways.
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