Hello, so one way or the other happy New Year to all :D And hopefully, we all come back to healthier lifestyles after this marathon of some festive domestic variable gluttony :)
And today's topic is a variety of narcissistic behaviour or, say, another term to describe - Flying Monkeys.
Definition by Wikipedia: Flying Monkeys is a phrase sometimes used in popular psychology to describe people who are acting at the behest of another to control a targeted individual. It is a metaphor taken from the Wizard of Oz wherein the Wicked Witch of the West used winged monkeys to carry out evil deeds on her behalf.
Definition by a Conscious Rethink: Flying Monkeys is a term used in psychology to describe the sycophantic hangers-on who usually orbit around narcissists, and support/defend everything they do.
Synonym: quick addiction
So in another word, shortly put Flying Monkeys are people, who are brainwashed by narcissists to attack their targeted person or a group. The more Flying Monkeys someone has, the better and more powerful attack they can create against someone. Why do ad exactly this to the scapegoat's and black sheep's adventures? Well, again these people were brainwashed a long time ago while being children, so they are perfect people to be brainwashed again and since they do it themselves in profound ways already, that's the behaviour, they needed to integrate for themselves, that's what became "every day's normal". So I wouldn't claim that exactly but I think, especially when a bit lower in life scapegoats would quite easily and effectively become Flying Monkeys for someone. Obviously, they could become the targeted person easily as well, since that is, what they integrated inside their psyche too - being the very obvious, tasty and really magnetic person for targeting. Might be they can appear as a narcissist as well but that isn't very likely, since they are more about being a doormat for someone than an almighty blown-up genie. Although that might happen, when they are on a good wave in their life, since being a doormat or blown up genie are the only ways they knew, so.. if they aren't in their usual role, so then - the opposite. So, again, if the narcissist knows how to convince someone that they deserve good behaviour with them (which scapegoats never had or rarely, so they crave it as water itself) and that they are a righteous and good person for defending good deeds, I have no doubts that would 100% create excellent flying monkey out of a casual person, who grew up in a scapegoat's role.
One way or another that's how Flying Monkeys work and sometimes, IMHO, you can see this process being applied countrywide... nations wide... How many of us see some country like for example America and what was done to Syria and we can't understand, what on Earth leads people to do those things to other people? And why we are even able to do those things we do sometimes? Because we want security and to belong to someone, something bigger than us? Something, someone, who could care for us and would clearly state to us that we belong? And then we smash entire humanity in us just to have that belonging.... every kindness just for some drops of safety... We cross the line and lose our ground, we don't hear our hearts and that safety we needed vanishes as it has never been here ever... never, ever? never ever.
Sounds like an exercise of balancing has to be done in better sequence to achieve more healthy interdependency with ourselves and the surroundings, neither sharpened egocentrism nor hyper altruism has done something good for no one.
So best wishes to watch out and stay out of invitations to hunt a person or a group of people for any reason, since these are always somewhat suspicious in the first place with remaining in good shape and ability to defend you and people of your close circle. Patience and intelligent wishes for 2022!
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