Scapegoat Goes to the Cinema 1

Hello, all the different ones :) How are you doing these days just before the 2022 New Year hits our doorsteps? 
Another piece and another topic: GASLIGHTING. 
Definition by Wikipedia: 
Gaslighting is a colloquialism, loosely defined as making someone question their own reality. 
By Wiktionary:
To gaslight - to mislead someone such that they doubt their own memory, perceptions, or sanity.
Synonym: head-game
Another description by the very well-mind:
Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that occurs in abusive relationships. It is an insidious and sometimes covert type of emotional abuse where the bully or abuser makes the target question their judgments and reality. Ultimately, the victim of gaslighting starts to wonder if they are losing their sanity

So shortly it's some sort of a tactic that is going on a long term to make someone question their own reality and sanity to become an easy target for wanted manipulation. Why it is put together with a scapegoat/black sheep mindset? Easy: it's because these kids had to believe they are less just because of no reason, really... They are less than others, they must know that the only way to gain some personal power is to make others believe they are less just because of no reason. Diluted self-worth, self-empowerment, self-love, and self-respect. You can't just simply be, who you really are and be ok with that, being valued, empowered, loved, and respected for who you simply are. The person that you really are can't be worth, loved, respected, and have personal human power, it can't be so and there are no particular reasons for it, so you can't really do anything as well... You are doomed, cursed and you will remain like this until you die, serving, obeying, following, and worshipping others or becoming a tyrant, villain, authoritarian, or dictator. That are only two options for scapegoats/black sheep in the family and kids after growing up repeat these paths throughout their life and pass them on to their own children. It is rarely done to anyone in extremely 100% ways but it can be done about their abilities to succeed in school, succeed in sports, or about their sexuality, their social gender roles, gender identities, race, political views, ability to be financially successful, being practical, being creative and other ways. A lot of times it's done because parents and other people, who help raise children don't know, why a child is different: dyslexic, dysphoric, lefthanded, you name it, it might be because of the social environment they are in like it was Soviets, homosexuality was a crime, lesbian, transgenders and other LGBT people simply didn't "exist".. Lefthanded were burned in middle ages, dyslexic people aren't understood often too, so on. Very often this abuse children get is simply because political and social place their parents live in and have to follow. And that is the point, where healthy individualism might end... simply because every piece of something bigger might change that bigger picture, parents need support just as they need good confrontation about their parenthood to remain balanced and able to withstand the sickness of our society in general, not passing it to their children. It's a job of the titans and parents really need good support while doing it. It's not about parenting and family being an untouchable taboo and it's not about setting every mistake of the parents to be crucial and taking away their children by some third party - both ways are damaging future of humanity... parents mostly always are best people to raise their children but it can be left without any questioning, no questioning strategy creates cult culture and nothing else.
As an example of how people can fall into a rabbit hole of false belief systems:

1. One thing goes to societal pressure and you refuse to hold very important discoveries that are simply smashed by a mob because it destroys "piece": did you know that S.Freud knew about trauma and that his hysterical patients become that because of abuse happened to them within their families and he tried to go on with it,  but then he refused it later on and created that all unconscious bonding with moms theory, which is somewhat freaky to say at least. Guess, C.Jung went similarly but blamed the father figure more... Those were the pioneers but one thing is sure, sir S. Freud did that crazy turn because of the pressure from society and fear of losing his name and career and that is, what cult alike cultures can do... You can read more about it in Judith L. Herman's book "Trauma and Recovery" (pages 8-13), and I am sure, there are many other sources for it.
2. Another thing is to follow the mob with the most popular and widely spread beliefs that are held as revolutionary and, if you want to be cool and ok, you simply follow it and hurt yourself and your close ones in the process: in the boom of feminism and therapy combination there was the very popular process of people going to a childhood trauma recovery. This method involves remembering emotional experiences and these sometimes are mostly just emotional flashbacks, not flashbacks of actual, real events. One of that kinds of fashion victims was one woman, a radical feminist, journalist. She had her marriage fallen apart, had several unsuccessful relationships, was investigating several sexual child cases of abuse so on... So she went to therapy and was led by her therapist to the belief that it can be something with her own self, something deeper than simply a very difficult, cold, disconnected bond with her father... So in this process, she "remembered" sexual abuse that happened with her father in her childhood, and later on, she realized it didn't happen. Shortly put... be careful of what you believe, if!!! you can, because we all function this way... rather than being effective than accurate :) You can read more in Mark Manson's book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" (pages 59-62)

And anyway, who could really blame either S.Freud or Meredite Maran, if you could step into their shoes.

The term GASLIGHTING is derived from the 1944 film Gaslight, which is a story about a husband who uses trickery to convince his wife that she is mentally unwell to steal from her.
Have a nice evening with your home cinema stuff and stay safe, not only physically. :) 

Not to forget: Gaslighting is not necessarily malicious or intentional, although in some cases it is.
Also worth mentioning: while a person's belief system changes into a more realistic and accurate one it might seem just as gaslighting too, at least at the start, be aware not to attack someone, who is making a titan's work for your own good.