Hello, all the different ones :) How are you doing these days just before the 2022 New Year hits our doorsteps?
Another piece and another topic: GASLIGHTING.
Definition by Wikipedia:
Gaslighting is a colloquialism, loosely defined as making someone question their own reality.
To gaslight - to mislead someone such that they doubt their own memory, perceptions, or sanity.
Another description by the very well-mind:
Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that occurs in abusive relationships. It is an insidious and sometimes covert type of emotional abuse where the bully or abuser makes the target question their judgments and reality. Ultimately, the victim of gaslighting starts to wonder if they are losing their sanity
So shortly it's some sort of a tactic that is going on a long term to make someone question their own reality and sanity to become an easy target for wanted manipulation. Why it is put together with a scapegoat/black sheep mindset? Easy: it's because these kids had to believe they are less just because of no reason, really... They are less than others, they must know that the only way to gain some personal power is to make others believe they are less just because of no reason. Diluted self-worth, self-empowerment, self-love, and self-respect. You can't just simply be, who you really are and be ok with that, being valued, empowered, loved, and respected for who you simply are. The person that you really are can't be worth, loved, respected, and have personal human power, it can't be so and there are no particular reasons for it, so you can't really do anything as well... You are doomed, cursed and you will remain like this until you die, serving, obeying, following, and worshipping others or becoming a tyrant, villain, authoritarian, or dictator. That are only two options for scapegoats/black sheep in the family and kids after growing up repeat these paths throughout their life and pass them on to their own children. It is rarely done to anyone in extremely 100% ways but it can be done about their abilities to succeed in school, succeed in sports, or about their sexuality, their social gender roles, gender identities, race, political views, ability to be financially successful, being practical, being creative and other ways. A lot of times it's done because parents and other people, who help raise children don't know, why a child is different: dyslexic, dysphoric, lefthanded, you name it, it might be because of the social environment they are in like it was Soviets, homosexuality was a crime, lesbian, transgenders and other LGBT people simply didn't "exist".. Lefthanded were burned in middle ages, dyslexic people aren't understood often too, so on. Very often this abuse children get is simply because political and social place their parents live in and have to follow. And that is the point, where healthy individualism might end... simply because every piece of something bigger might change that bigger picture, parents need support just as they need good confrontation about their parenthood to remain balanced and able to withstand the sickness of our society in general, not passing it to their children. It's a job of the titans and parents really need good support while doing it. It's not about parenting and family being an untouchable taboo and it's not about setting every mistake of the parents to be crucial and taking away their children by some third party - both ways are damaging future of humanity... parents mostly always are best people to raise their children but it can be left without any questioning, no questioning strategy creates cult culture and nothing else.
As an example of how people can fall into a rabbit hole of false belief systems:
And anyway, who could really blame either S.Freud or Meredite Maran, if you could step into their shoes.
The term GASLIGHTING is derived from the 1944 film Gaslight, which is a story about a husband who uses trickery to convince his wife that she is mentally unwell to steal from her.
Have a nice evening with your home cinema stuff and stay safe, not only physically. :)
Not to forget: Gaslighting is not necessarily malicious or intentional, although in some cases it is.
Also worth mentioning: while a person's belief system changes into a more realistic and accurate one it might seem just as gaslighting too, at least at the start, be aware not to attack someone, who is making a titan's work for your own good.
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