Well... Let's talk about guys and gals, who are capable to do three things at once and then doing nothing for hours or even a day :D since something else is happening in their body or unconsciousness, so they are incapable of even moving a lot then... But!! If their body is up for action is usually not only driving, going shopping in the 10min break, cooking, cleaning a flat, pumping their muscles, choosing music, and planning the future :D and only god knows, what else going on, fact is - a lot is going on at once. This being said I just want to illustrate it visually and then put a few words on how and why it is useful, what its flaws and how I manage this trait I have myself.
Pros: You can manage a lot of things by yourself and master being self-sustainable in your household and build up your life, so no one else is really needed... You see, the problem with getting together with someone isn't about them doing things, you can't manage to do, it's about being ok by yourself and meeting someone, who is ok by themselves too. In other way put: if you think someone will help you with your stuff, you will certainly meet someone, who will think you can handle some of their stuff and... well, calculate yourself, but it means you will never escape from working your a** out anyway even, if someone will do part of your duties.. unless you have an unrealistic thought that your new duties for your partner will be miraculously amazing and never boring to do :D Best luck with that... So I think, the best trait of being a multitasker is a promise to yourself and your close ones that you can handle it all by yourself: cleaning, shopping, food, car (or a bike or any transport), bills, body hygiene, washing, looks, health care, so on.
Cons: If you managing all by yourself, you know, how uneasy is to have something additional, how uneasy is to move to another flat, city, country... how difficult is to invite another person into your life and how hard is to comfort those, who are already in, and BTW their life changes too, so its a roller-coaster. You may be not focused, seem ignorant, forgot to check in with the world's news so on.
How I am managing it? I let myself do nothing if I just can't do anything that day... It's scary, strange, and uncomfortable but ok and somewhat shamanic. And I let me be 6 handed god thing :D who does everything at once, if I seem to have enough of energy and will for it that day... It's seriously messy, not accurate, and overwhelming but it's freakin magical too. I try to have my schedule intact (eating, sleeping, cleaning times) but not forget more major tasks and their space in my life (to call family, write a blog, plan journeys, check in with the world's news, therapy, car fix so on)
Yes, that is as simple as that, - just let it flow as a river and you'll be fine or somewhat alike fine :)
BTW some people are very big on meditating or praying or both. TBH I pray and I pray either because I have heavenly connection moments and I try to remind myself about the concept of gods and anything divine being metaphorically our parent figures, while we were babies, and having an ok connection with that brings us to appreciate life and accept it's gifts more easily... Also, I do that in moments of great struggle.. and accidents, it re-creates the same bond with the "divine" and saves us from the belief that we are incapable of withholding and pushing through hardship. Although I prefer talking mantras so much more, the mantra is the long lasting rhythmic repeating of some phrases or words that are important and effective to you.
what about meditating. I hardly do it consciously as well but it happens to get me more grounded and centered, not to be blown by the wind in any direction. And mostly I do it "on a go", it happens, when I can't focus but need to... or simply before falling asleep or just before being awake... Those purely insightful, crossing conscious/unconscious line moments, where you know and get more than usual, no drugs needed, right? those moments are naturally hypnotic and visionary. And again... I prefer being in nature and just watching it so much more and simply getting grounded, reconnected, and refreshed by it.
If you have something to share about prayers and meditations, please, write in the comments, I would enjoy reading it :) Sharing is caring
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