Hello, I just hope this post won't be full of anger and sadness because that's exactly how I've been feeling these past few days.
Would you buy someone's heart, feelings...? Would you sell it for money or other material wealth to someone else? How much it determines relationships and how we combine internal and external resources... Is happiness really not in money and how much people would give for the career turn they want or the simplest house with a normal washing machine, not to mention the right medicine for their sick pet, or even for oneself.
It's strange... how often we just gulp all and completely go to swirl inside and so become royal beggars, because we don't learn to earn, gain material, or even physical independence, after all, how many adult children still live with their parents or other guardians... Well, or we give ourselves up to becoming completely materially self-sufficient and spiritually dependent on others... Well, in other words, we need to have around us those who need our support... And again... how many adults are able to be fully self-sufficient, and then part of that ability is still also provided to parents or other guardians still living with them.
To be honest, I don't know a good balance between co-/counter-dependency and whether this dynamic really creates a relationship where a person wants to belong and be someone to belong to, where they want to help and be helped... I say it's one thing about a relationship where a person is themselves and does it - create a relationship because of our natural, inevitable social needs... And another thing where these are habitual actions, even thinking, with which we just barricade ourselves... where we become inaccessible neither to others nor to ourselves... but somehow still virtuous and as if vulnerable?? Because we accept help if not one particular type of help, then another type of it.
I want a person to give because they are doing it and, well, in the sense that they are absolutely happy to do it and are blessed to see that you enjoy it... without any desire to get something in return...
I want a person to accept because he can and besides, it is not vitally necessary for him/her, but he is pleased to see that it brings a smile and joy to someone else, when they accept someone's gifts... For him it is like, as Teal Swan says - "positive social behavior"... it makes sense because we socialize whether we want to or not, we through hints and peeps in one way or another, if not literally sitting in each other's arms :D or at least we dream some nonsense or some image with a very caring person passes before our eyes when we accidentally fall onto the floor of a store or forget where our cart with products is :D well, it happens... like some kind of guards or just demons, pushing away from things that you have to be pushed away from.
Hearts from various corners of the internet
Well, how much will we sell the heart for... and how much will we buy it for... and are you the seller or the buyer or both?? Do you just care about the exchange, where we win and lose... where we are communal and willing to share, but still choose the environment of "our league"... inevitably?
Somehow, the further I go, the more I am convinced that trauma, like anything that seriously affects a person, whether it happens in the family, or the family is simply not very consciously able to follow the norms of society, so they adapt them without empathy or even compassion, rather with panic and anxiety about their offspring's abilities to become a good citizen, a part of everything that is the world for all of us. So different...and so unapologetically real. So withdrawn into their own things and affairs... and infinitely related to anything, even to the dust that you can see floating in the air in the room, illuminated by the rays of the sun....
I don't know, it's hard to write and there's a lot of confusion, so that I wouldn't inevitably end up with oversimplification or too long a litany about things that are mundane... I stop here and wish everyone as much trust/faith as togetherness/love.
Most likely, the point is not in the distraction between:
But rather just in freestyle float between them?? 🤟
Another question that comes to mind is about people who can't communicate publicly with loved ones and those who can't communicate privately with loved ones... something in the black/white area, but more on that in later entries.
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