Why Is It Important to Get to Know and Work with Your Super-Ego – True Self?

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🔴 ​**The People We Choose**
Lately, I've been reflecting more and more on the people around me. In the past, I thought anyone would do: a thief, a jerk, or a liar – after all, life turned out that way, parents raised them like that, and the soul needs its lessons. I still get that, but now I want a completely different level of people around me. Those for whom, for example, honor, dignity, and conscience mean everything.

Women often don't think about these values because it's assumed they have nothing to do with femininity, don't help find a partner, and only get in the way of a career. That's a misconception. Any relationships – friendship, love, or work – can be long-term and quality only in one case: if people's values align, i.e., their inner "compasses" point in the same direction.

It worries me a lot when a man can't explain what conscience or keeping one's word means to him. If he sees conscience as "I try not to lie, and if pushed I just stay silent," then as a personality, he seems pretty sad. Conscience is so much more. If a person can't define morality for themselves, control themselves, and evaluate their actions, that's really unfortunate 🧭

🟠 **Value Differences Between Genders**

• Men often value clarity, consistency, and responsibility. Conscience shows in keeping commitments and consistent actions.
• Women tend to value the inner moral compass, empathy, and relationship harmony more. Conscience is not just behavior, but also care for others.

A man will value the woman herself and her behavior, which is really an indirect outcome of health of her Super-Ego. And for a man, it's important to teach his Super-Ego safer attachment, because a woman will value his inner world and relationships directly and obviously :D
Of course, wwe can't forget that each of us has both a man and a woman inside :) 🌈

🟡 **Psychology and Responsibility**
Psychology can explain any behavior: countless sexual relationships, manipulations, avoiding responsibility? It's all due to childhood traumas, relationships with mom, or attachment disorders. That's convenient if you want to justify yourself. But if you're already an adult, raise yourself! Seek self-awareness! You can always find an excuse for the pain you cause others, but most of the time, you see what you're doing – at least from the reaction. If your mind is healthy (without organic damage), you have to be able to analyze. Even if an inexplicable force pushes you to steal or use someone else, you can understand, feel that you're harming. And you do understand! But you'd rather shove the doubts deep and justify yourself.

Low values rule a person – money at any cost, pleasures at any cost, indulging whims – he turns into a dirty, low-level creature.
In psychological terms, according to Freud:

• **Id (Instincts)** = desires, instincts, pursuit of pleasure.
• **Ego (I)** = mediator, reality negotiator.
• **Super-Ego (True Self)** = inner moral guardian, conscience.

Ego recognizes and satisfies Id's desires according to Super-Ego's norms and laws. Super-Ego is our inner moral guardian, conscience, which should not be a punishing judge, but a secure attachment guide: supportive, empathetic, helping to grow without chains of guilt. When there's no balance between these three, a person remains unfinished, as if fake, fragmented – with such a one, it's impossible to create anything real 🧠

🟢 **High Values and Inner Purity**
Neither intellect, nor intelligence, nor education create high values on their own. They are born from inner purity and fullness, from constant work on oneself – especially healing Super-Ego so that it gains secure attachment traits: not suppressing, but encouraging to be authentic self. High values turn a person not just into a living being, but into a true Human. Values such as:

• dignity
• respect
• self-respect
• strength of will and spirit
• conscience

– raise high soul vibrations and make a person pure and bright ⚖️

🔵 **Safe Environment**
Such people cannot live, be friends, or work with dirty types. They will never understand. They will always try to suppress and destroy. The unconscious is much stronger and more powerful than the conscious.

Choose people who match your level of values, and you will be happy!
This not only protects your inner harmony, but also helps Super-Ego become a true ally, not an enemy 🛡️
Adapted from Antonina Egorova. Translation and adaptation: Laurynas Sadzevičius

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🟣 **Explanation**
Super-Ego in psychoanalysis (Freud's model) is not a real, external guardian, but an inner voice of the psyche, formed from:

• parents, guardians, teachers, authorities' instructions,
• society's norms, values, morality,
• ideals that a person absorbs while growing up.

It acts as an inner "guardian / judge" that oversees whether a person behaves "correctly" according to those absorbed standards. Sometimes it is very strict (due to a strict childhood, upbringing), sometimes gentler 💡
Adapted from ChatGPT. Adaptation: Laurynas Sadzevičius

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**Tools for Working on Relationships**​

⚪️ ​ Quizzes – for the consciousness, self awareness
Attachment Style in Relationships Quiz   
- Is your attachment secure, anxious, or avoidant?
​Dominant Love Languages Quiz
- Find out how you express and receive love – through touch, gifts?
Dominant Apology Languages Quiz
​- How do you apologize and what do you value from others?

⚫️ Secure Attachment Vibe Playlists – for the subconsciousness
Indie/acustic/pop - Gentle sounds for calm and reflection.
Rock – Energy for strength and liberation.
Hip-hop/rap – Words about truth and growth.
Electronic  – Pulse to feel safe in motion.
Russian – Local voices close to the heart.
​Lithuanian – Deep rhythms for soul vibrations.
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Playlists created by: Laurynas Sadzevičius

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