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Universally Acceptable Behavior 4: ROLES

10/11/2025

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Fourth post in the series, this time about roles and another movie as promised :)
When "The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly" are no longer three people, but three of your own states – on drama and creative triangles.
Once you've gotten the hang of choosing direction in life and it feels like 2+2, you have your map, you're learning to understand your dreams, you can take a look at what roles you take on in your daily life. Are you like a Western wild gunman on the loose :D or a somewhat more civilized version. It doesn't matter at all if you're good one day, bad or ugly another... the important thing is whether those roles are that childish or a bit more mature.
Right now, I just remembered that Chat GPT, since no AI is moral—they're just programmed to be used, which isn't always moral—knew I was doing another post related to a movie, so it wrote it for me right away instead of me... Which it absolutely shouldn't have done. Sometimes less is more, but... The essence of this is probably that I need to step back from AI suggestions and remember how these triangles really work in my life and how I manage to recall that the "good guys vs bad guys" game is so appealing... and so lame at the same time... And in its finale, you end up hiding behind the "ugly guy's" mask, at least that's how it turns out for me... And everything sinks into the swamps. So over time, I noticed that no matter how hard it is sometimes, and energy drained to hell knows where... it's possible to just stay in the Creative Triangle dynamic, then the whole mess subsides and becomes not so big or not that relevant.
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Why did I choose this movie? No clue at all... but echoes from watching this movie in the past came back to me with those good and bad characters... and then ugly fit perfectly into its place... Where he no longer have those questioning eyes, who's to blame for my situation? when will SOMEONE rescue me, well, I don't understand?, but instead asks: what can I create?
The good guy's character no longer needs to save anyone or clash with someone to stop their evil plans :D Well, and the bad guy, protagonist no longer needs to carry out endless horrific plans or attack, hurt, and so on.
The victim becomes a creator, a student; the rescuer – a trainer, therapist; the persecutor – a growth provocateur, a challenger.
An absolutely simple trick when the matrix of values gets stuck, crashes, gets tangled, or disappointment creeps in from some events and such. Yes, the awful feeling and confusion remain... but you can move, you can move. Breathe, reconnect, start, and go. Again.

And let the good luck🤞🤞🤞 guide you on the way, mein Freund 🤝🤝🤝
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Universally Acceptable Behavior 3: DIRECTIONS

10/11/2025

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I really don't know what I'm writing, or for whom, or why... But... since I touched on goals again, I dive into values too now. This time not seriously, but in game form, because I'm starting to annoy myself with all those spiritual matrices, so now maybe we can swing to a playful format, so it doesn't look like I know too little – because only then everything has that Brussels Parliament seriousness... The more you know, the more you play ;D maybe someone will come and hammer you with the "you're an idiot" phrase while you at play and remind you of the Dunning-Kruger effect :D And then you can't stop staring at a person's completely exhibitionistic draw of self-portrait just before your eyes... I don't quite grasp why such episodes freeze me so much... But they stun me to the point of jaw-dropping :) Roughly it seems to me like... "woooooow, I got a pet and it's even a human" (and though my mind boils: "don't you have enough of them already??"), I just shout: "what a truly wonderful day!!!" (just the other day 🤦‍♂️)

Let's get back to the matrix, well, values... Why as a matrix?? Because there are endless values, endless and they all always point in one and the same direction, in my opinion, - the Absolute, the phenomenon embodying all virtues completely, and people call it God... God is good (aka virtuous) ALL THE TIME :)) isn't that the code among believers?? God is good... (finish the sentence, and they'll accept you ALL THE TIME). But... since we're still just humans, we can choose which of those virtues to follow as directions toward Him – the Source, the Absolute.. like road signs so we don't veer off somewhere else. And the problem is that choosing values is incredibly complicated... because there are millions of them, from love and truth to?? aesthetics and diplomacy, for example... So it boils down to a matrix... the entire code is just His reflection... and that digital rain is this world should reflect His world, but really is just a pretty crooked copy... Because only He can be influenced by all possible virtues and values at once. Something like that.. let's get back to the matrix, I created this mini word game, like those on spiritual guru pages :D So, if it's too hard to choose, just glance at this word puzzle and jot down the first 3 words you see and stick to them. That's the start of life guided by certain values that should lead you to yourself, improvement, and there is happiness on a way and so on, you know.
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But really, everything is a bit different... Because distilling your own values is more complicated. You have to "wait for them" until they pop out of that letter and word rain swirling inside you day in and day out, and you realize that right now you have to stick to exactly these. That's the authentic way to select, but, I repeat, if it's too complicated, no time, no mood, no nothing at all, you can pull a few from any text and if they stick, then stick to them like signs.
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Example: In this word game I created, I found – romanticism, kindness, strength. OK So right now, I'll try to act so that my actions are romantic, kind, and strong, or so that I myself am – romantic, kind, and strong. That doesn't mean I have to align perfectly in every step, always... but I'll keep them in mind until it gradually becomes a way of life. And that's it.

P.S.: if you're afraid of getting stuck and need variety (it happens), don't need to worry. Those values "burn out", especially if they're not quite yours or don't fit the current life phase... then replace them with more aligned ones and you're done. The important thing is to stick to a few, not always choose new ones. There you go.
Everything is simpler than you think, buddy 🐝🐝🐝 And don't stop laughing, even if the neighbors upstairs start stomping with their dissatisfied little feet. 🤣🤣🤣 Grumpily..

And that's not all... We'd need to dive deeper into roles too, not just directions, because that can shatter any chosen system of sticking to those directions. Like a bug...
In the next post, I'll discuss the phenomenon that's crucial in any life dynamic, and which somehow turned out like from a movie too—a really cool movie, just not the Matrix anymore.
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